Early in the morning I take time for personal reading and reflection. Today, I came across a quote that resonated strongly with me:
If you can just observe what you are and move with it, then you will find it is possible to go infinitely far. –J. Krishnamurti
This statement suggests the following concept:
We don’t have to work at being what we already are.
Honestly, there are many times that I work harder than I need to. I’m not saying that I want to take the easy road; rather it’s that I lose sight (clarity) of who I am and what is important to me. It’s when I’m being influenced by external issues more than internal truths.
Some examples from my life are when I’m chasing business growth decisions for ego gratification, accepting leadership roles that don’t feel comfortable, or pretending to have more energy and drive than really exists. In many instances they’re actions or statements that begin with the word “should.”
We all do it, and it’s easy to slip into this trap.
I was reminded of how easy it is to lose clear focus of ourselves when I was talking with a friend yesterday. He has been struggling to find a company to acquire and run, after having been a key part of a small team that successfully built and sold a company a few years ago. He felt like he wanted, and needed, to “do it again,” and that he had the confidence and Midas touch to be a CEO.
Please hear that I am not trying to minimize the gumption and drive it takes to achieve goals in life. But, it was clear to me he was doing it for the wrong reasons—and in the process making it harder than it needed to be.
How was he making it harder?
In my friend’s case, pride and ego were creeping in and clouding his decision-making, and he was working hard at maintaining a façade that didn’t align with who he really was. The facts were that his energy level was slipping; he didn’t have the drive to “lead” a company (he would rather be a key impact player on a small team), and most importantly, his priority at this stage in his life was to be a good father and husband.
Here are three ways to better align key decisions with your life:
- Take some quiet time to inventory your priorities and passions. (the Ideal Outcomes worksheet in the Learning Center can be a helpful aid)
- Accept “who you are”, and let it act as the compass and direct your path.
- Remember that being who you are doesn’t require work. So, don’t swim against the current, instead flow with it.
Are there areas in your life where you need to stop trying so hard and just let the current take you?